The Soft Ground
Welcome to The Soft Ground. It’s a blog where you’ll find reflections, practices, and stories that honour the messy, beautiful, and often tender journey of being a mother but firstly a human.
Millennials & Gen Z, Motherhood, and the Beautiful Burden of Cycle-Breaking
Millennial mums are the first generation widely parenting while healing their own wounds. It is beautiful and heavy work. This blog explores the research on cycle-breaking and offers simple, body-based practices to ease the pressure, so you can choose presence over perfection and grow real connection with your little one.
The Somatic Landscape of Breastfeeding and Weaning
Explore what happens in your body during and after breastfeeding from hormonal shifts in oxytocin and prolactin to the emotions of weaning. A gentle, somatic reflection to help mothers understand, normalise, and honour this transition.
Why You Need to Know How Hormones Shape Your Body, Emotions and Relationships
Your hormones shape more than your body, they shape how you feel, relate and care. From the sensitivity of adolescence to the deep bonding of breastfeeding and the inward pull of menopause, each shift changes your emotional landscape.
This is why you need to know. When we understand our hormonal rhythms through a somatic lens, we stop fighting our bodies and begin to listen. And in that listening, we find our way home to ourselves.
The Slow Unfolding: An Embodied Goodbye to Breastfeeding
A gentle, embodied reflection on breastfeeding, weaning, and motherhood, exploring cultural pressure to “get back to normal” and honouring every parent’s unique feeding journey through presence, feeling, and body wisdom.
When Parenting Turns Into Survival (“mess around and find out” parenting)
There’s a new kind of parenting trending — the “mess around and find out” approach. It’s sold as strength, as firm boundaries and tough love. But beneath the tone, you can feel something else. The tightness. The exhaustion. The quiet grief of parents who are stretched beyond capacity and just trying to survive the day. This isn’t bad parenting; it’s the sound of nervous systems crying out for rest and connection. Maybe what we need isn’t more control, but more compassion — for ourselves and for the children who are learning from the way we soften.
How Can I Be More Present With My Children?
Discover how to be more present with your children by working with your nervous system, noticing glimmers, and softening old patterns.
How to Support Your Nervous System After Birth (A Mother’s Guide)
Becoming a mother transforms not only your body, but also your nervous system. After birth, it’s common to feel wired-yet-tired, anxious, or disconnected from yourself, even while deeply in love with your baby. This guide shares gentle, realistic practices—like rest, nature, movement, connection, and self-compassion—to help you feel grounded and supported in early motherhood.
Not Perfect, Just Present - The Real Gift Our Kids Need From Us
Motherhood isn’t about getting it all right. It’s about showing up, even when it’s hard. Learn how presence shapes your children more than words, why we drift away into old patterns, and gentle ways to return home to yourself and your child.
What Matrescence Really Means - The Emotional & Physical Transition into Motherhood
Matrescence is the emotional, physical, and identity transformation into motherhood. Discover what it really means, why it’s as big as adolescence, and how to navigate it with compassion.
What the Non-Birthing Parent Often Misses (But Needs to Know)
When a baby is born, it’s not just the child who transforms the mother does too, in ways that are often unseen. For the partner standing beside her, understanding this shift is essential. This piece offers insight into the emotional, physical, and somatic changes of early motherhood and how to show up with presence, compassion, and care.
Embodied Motherhood: Rediscovering Your Body on the Journey of Becoming a Mother
Embodiment in motherhood is a profound yet often overlooked part of the transition into parenthood. This blog explores how pregnancy, birth, postpartum and past trauma can deeply impact a mother's connection to her body. It shares my personal insights and research around body image, disconnection, fatigue and emotional overwhelm. And a path to reconnection and healing.
What Is Somatic Therapy? A Guide for Mothers
Somatic Therapy supports mothers to reconnect with their bodies and emotions in a gentle, creative way. It blends mindfulness, body awareness, and expressive practices to help release tension, process held experiences, and build a deeper sense of inner connection. Especially during pregnancy, postpartum, or parenting, it offers a safe space to come home to yourself and feel more grounded, present, and resourced.
Motherhood, Guilt, and the Myth of Getting It Right All the Time
Many of us newer mothers face intense pressure to be perfect, present, and conscious. In this blog I explore how shame fuels burnout and why self-compassion can be the answer.