The Soft Ground

Welcome to The Soft Ground. It’s a blog where you’ll find reflections, practices, and stories that honour the messy, beautiful, and often tender journey of being a mother but firstly a human.

Nervous System & Regulation Lauren Howe Nervous System & Regulation Lauren Howe

Twin Motherhood and the Nervous System - Why So Many Mums of Multiples Live in Survival Mode

Twin and multiple motherhood places unique and often invisible demands on the nervous system. From pregnancy and birth through to sleep deprivation and constant caregiving, many mums of multiples live in survival mode without understanding why. This compassionate, somatic reflection explores the nervous system impacts of twin motherhood, the hidden grief and loneliness many mums carry, and how coming back to yourself happens slowly through safety, nature, breath and being met.

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I Didn’t Realise How Much Motherhood Would Pull Me Out of My Body - A personal reflection

Motherhood can pull us out of our bodies in ways we never expect. From birth trauma and sleep deprivation to constant nervous system activation, many mothers live in survival mode while quietly wondering where they went. This personal, somatic reflection explores how early motherhood disconnects us from ourselves, why this makes sense through a nervous system lens, and how coming back into the body happens slowly, gently and in relationship. A compassionate read for mothers who feel foggy, vigilant, lonely or not quite themselves yet.

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When Motherhood Feels Lonely and the Feelings Feel Too Big

Motherhood can feel deeply lonely, even when you are never actually alone. Big emotions like overwhelm, rage, grief, guilt or numbness are not signs that something is wrong with you, but signals from a nervous system under pressure. This article gently normalises the emotional intensity of motherhood and offers a somatic, body-led perspective on how to meet these feelings with kindness rather than fixing. It also introduces a supportive Insight Timer course created for mothers who want simple, grounding practices they can return to in real life.

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Millennials & Gen Z, Motherhood, and the Beautiful Burden of Cycle-Breaking

Millennial mums are the first generation widely parenting while healing their own wounds. It is beautiful and heavy work. This blog explores the research on cycle-breaking and offers simple, body-based practices to ease the pressure, so you can choose presence over perfection and grow real connection with your little one.

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The Soft Art of Letting Go - (Letting Go of Parenting Pressure and Finding Presence in Motherhood)

A heartfelt reflection on the pressure so many mothers feel to “get it right.” This piece explores how the self-improvement mindset and constant stream of parenting advice can leave our nervous systems overwhelmed and disconnected from our own intuition.

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When Parenting Turns Into Survival (“mess around and find out” parenting)

There’s a new kind of parenting trending — the “mess around and find out” approach. It’s sold as strength, as firm boundaries and tough love. But beneath the tone, you can feel something else. The tightness. The exhaustion. The quiet grief of parents who are stretched beyond capacity and just trying to survive the day. This isn’t bad parenting; it’s the sound of nervous systems crying out for rest and connection. Maybe what we need isn’t more control, but more compassion — for ourselves and for the children who are learning from the way we soften.

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How to Support Your Nervous System After Birth (A Mother’s Guide)

Becoming a mother transforms not only your body, but also your nervous system. After birth, it’s common to feel wired-yet-tired, anxious, or disconnected from yourself, even while deeply in love with your baby. This guide shares gentle, realistic practices—like rest, nature, movement, connection, and self-compassion—to help you feel grounded and supported in early motherhood.

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A Mother’s Guide To Understanding and Regulating Your Nervous System

Motherhood reshapes your nervous system in deep, powerful ways from sleep deprivation to emotional overwhelm. This article helps you understand your body’s signals, normalise dysregulation, and offers simple, embodied practices to come back to calm and connection.

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What the Non-Birthing Parent Often Misses (But Needs to Know)

When a baby is born, it’s not just the child who transforms the mother does too, in ways that are often unseen. For the partner standing beside her, understanding this shift is essential. This piece offers insight into the emotional, physical, and somatic changes of early motherhood and how to show up with presence, compassion, and care.

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Embodied Motherhood: Rediscovering Your Body on the Journey of Becoming a Mother

Embodiment in motherhood is a profound yet often overlooked part of the transition into parenthood. This blog explores how pregnancy, birth, postpartum and past trauma can deeply impact a mother's connection to her body. It shares my personal insights and research around body image, disconnection, fatigue and emotional overwhelm. And a path to reconnection and healing.

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What Is Somatic Therapy? A Guide for Mothers

Somatic Therapy supports mothers to reconnect with their bodies and emotions in a gentle, creative way. It blends mindfulness, body awareness, and expressive practices to help release tension, process held experiences, and build a deeper sense of inner connection. Especially during pregnancy, postpartum, or parenting, it offers a safe space to come home to yourself and feel more grounded, present, and resourced.

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Motherhood, Guilt, and the Myth of Getting It Right All the Time

Many of us newer mothers face intense pressure to be perfect, present, and conscious. In this blog I explore how shame fuels burnout and why self-compassion can be the answer.

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